Anonymous asked:

The issue with Michaela and her finacee wasn't "you had sex with a guy", it was "you had sex with a guy, and then you purposfully hid it from me, even though we are getting married and we shouldn't have any secrets from one another."

markfallon:

michaela’s reaction absolutely takes issue with the fact that aiden slept with a man.

when aiden and connor meet again for the first time, aiden clearly has no hesitations or shame regarding his relationship with connor. he has a huge smile on his face when he sees connor and gives him a warm hug, saying “so good to see you again”. aiden only demonstrated discomfort once michaela takes issue with the situation.

i disagree that aiden “purposefully hid it” as you said, because i don’t think aiden would have considered connor an ‘ex’. i’ve hooked up with friends and not had relationships with them - i don’t consider them exes at all.

looking at the structure of the episode, it’s scripted so that 3 different couples’ experiences all mirror each other (forgive me for not remembering names off the top of my head):

  1. michaela/aiden
  2. annalise/her husband
  3. the client/her husband

annalise warns michaela, “choose your husband carefully, ms. pratt, you’ll only have yourself to blame if it ends badly”. this reflect’s both annalise’s concerns with her own husband lying about his relationship with his student and potentially murdering someone and the client hiding a double life as a fugitive activist and bomber from her family. 

annalise’s line is used by the writers to equate all 3 couples’ situations, meaning they are equating aiden sleeping with connor to:

1) having a secret ongoing relationship with a student (which would legally be considered non-consensual btw) and murdering said student; and

2) changing your identity and starting a new life without your spouse’s knowledge that you are evading incarceration for a bombing

this is not an accident. nothing scripted is an accident. the episode was purposefully structured this way.

as pointed out in another text post i read (which i currently cannot find but i will keep looking for it!), the episode is, surprise surprise, queer coding aiden. his actions (and their consequences), according to the episode, are on par with the actions of annalise’s husband and the client. aiden sleeping with connor apparently taints he and michaela’s relationship beyond repair in the same way that finding out your spouse (might have) murdered someone would. that’s fucking unacceptable.

and look at the way michaela phrases her sentences:

  • “i don’t want anymore of a mental picture than i already have”

  • “we’ve talked about all our exes and you never mentioned a boy!

if it’s not about aiden having a same sex partner then why is it emphasized and consistently brought up?

  • (after aiden apologizes and admits he should have told michaela as soon as they ran into connor) “you should have told me before you proposed, before you said you loved me, before you asked me out.”

sleeping with someone of the same sex is clearly a deal-breaker for michaela, she wouldn’t have agreed to go out with aiden if she knew in advance. god forbid michaela date someone who’s not 100% straight, right? again with the ‘tainted’ idea here.

  • “were there others? … men. men you had sex with… because if you’re gay… you ARE gay.”

♫ HELLO BISEXUAL ERASURE MY OLD FRIEND ♫

AIDEN SPECIFICALLY SAYS HE IS NOT GAY, WHICH IS A VERY COMMON REACTION FOR CLOSETED OR OUT BISEXUAL PEOPLE TO HAVE BECAUSE, SHOCKINGLY, THEY ARE NOT GAY!

  • “[my wedding dress] cost me a fortune, so you better be sure. you can’t embarrass me, aiden. i have a plan for my life and it doesn’t include you ruining us.”

aiden ends up needing to justify his sexuality, which he should not have to do, and feels pressured into calling it a ‘mistake’ based on michaela’s anger.

how to get away with murder’s scripting clearly emphasizes their view that there are only monosexual identities. this alienates me, this invalidates me, and this erases me. 

michaela’s reaction had quite a lot to do with the fact that one of aiden’s previous sex partners was a guy.

this is bisexual erasure. this is biphobia.

*whispers* or maybe it was just Mikaela’s bisexual erasure/bi phobia and not the writers, because view of the writers =/= view of the characters and the only negativity towards Aiden’s bisexuality came from dialogue from Michaela. So maybe (I hope) this will be revisited in a later episode.

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kibblesundbitches:

So, I found this note in my bedroom at my parents’ house and had no idea why it was on my dresser or when I had received it. I have no recollection of it whatsoever. So I asked my mom, and she told me… (Background: Three years ago, I attempted suicide a few days before my brother was set to go to a friend’s cabin for a weekend. I was eighteen; he was 21) My parents had to force him to still go.  When I got home from the hospital, this was on my bed waiting. Christian suffers from severe OCD. At the time, he refused to hand write anything because his OCD was too severe to let him. He had to type, because it was easier to rewrite an entire assignment when it was on the computer than when it was handwritten. He would literally do an assignment 15-20 times before he could get through the whole thing.  So he apparently fought off his OCD just so he could write me a note so that I wouldn’t feel like he didn’t care. I wish I remembered this, because it makes me feel so loved to know about it now.  Guys. My brother is so fucking sweet.

This is amazing omg

just-a-skinny-boy:

kibblesundbitches:

So, I found this note in my bedroom at my parents’ house and had no idea why it was on my dresser or when I had received it. I have no recollection of it whatsoever. So I asked my mom, and she told me…
(Background: Three years ago, I attempted suicide a few days before my brother was set to go to a friend’s cabin for a weekend. I was eighteen; he was 21)
My parents had to force him to still go.
When I got home from the hospital, this was on my bed waiting. Christian suffers from severe OCD. At the time, he refused to hand write anything because his OCD was too severe to let him. He had to type, because it was easier to rewrite an entire assignment when it was on the computer than when it was handwritten. He would literally do an assignment 15-20 times before he could get through the whole thing.
So he apparently fought off his OCD just so he could write me a note so that I wouldn’t feel like he didn’t care.
I wish I remembered this, because it makes me feel so loved to know about it now.
Guys.
My brother is so fucking sweet.

This is amazing omg

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When you are 13 years old,
the heat will be turned up too high
and the stars will not be in your favor.
You will hide behind a bookcase
with your family and everything left behind.
You will pour an ocean into a diary.
When they find you, you will be nothing
but a spark above a burning bush,
still, tell them
Despite everything, I really believe people are good at heart.

When you are 14,
a voice will call you to greatness.
When the doubters call you crazy, do not listen.
They don’t know the sound
of their own God’s whisper. Use your armor,
use your sword, use your two good hands.
Do not let their doubting
drown out the sound of your own heartbeat.
You are the Maid of Untamed Patriotism.
Born to lead armies into victory and unite a nation
like a broken heart.

When you are 15, you will be punished
for learning too proudly. A man
will climb onto your school bus and insist
your sisters name you enemy.
When you do not hide,
he will point his gun at your temple
and fire three times. Three years later,
in an ocean of words, with no apologies,
you will stand before the leaders of the world
and tell them your country is burning.

When you are 16 years old,
you will invent science fiction.
The story of a man named Frankenstein
and his creation. Soon after you will learn
that little girls with big ideas are more terrifying
than monsters, but don’t worry.
You will be remembered long after
they have put down their torches.

When you are 17 years old,
you will strike out Babe Ruth and Lou Gehrig
one right after the other.
Men will be afraid of the lightening
in your fingertips. A few days later
you will be fired from the major leagues
because “Girls are too delicate to play baseball”

You will turn 18 with a baby on your back
leading Lewis and Clark
across North America.

You will turn 18 
and become queen of the Nile.

You will turn 18 
and bring justice to journalism.

You are now 18, standing on the precipice,
trembling before your own greatness.

This is your call to leap.

There will always being those
who say you are too young and delicate
to make anything happen for yourself.
They don’t see the part of you that smolders.
Don’t let their doubting drown out the sound
of your own heartbeat.

You are the first drop of a hurricane.
Your bravery builds beyond you. You are needed
by all the little girls still living in secret,
writing oceans made of monsters and
throwing like lightening.

You don’t need to grow up to find greatness.
You are stronger than the world has ever believed you to be.
The world laid out before you to set on fire.
All you have to do
is burn.

For Teenage Girls With Wild Ambition and Trembling Hearts, Clementine von Radics 

xx.

-Anna F

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